From the moment you’re born, you’re being programmed whether good or bad, from your parents, teachers and even friends you hang around with as children and even as adults.
Throughout history, people have always wanted to do better for themselves and with the information available today that’s more so than ever.
Lots of people continue to struggle to get rid of their old beliefs or programs that are negative, harmful or just holding them back in achieving success in life.
Lots of people are not happy where they are in life, they want a better job, more money or break a bad habit for example.
But why are some people on a daily basis more happy, productive and fulfilled than others?
Is it fate? Or do we control our own lives?
We all hold internal dialogues with ourselves as we go throughout the day and even the night.
This is known as self-talk, most of the time this is negative.
We say things like, “You stupid idiot”, “I can’t do that”, “That was sure stupid”
Consider what happens after you’ve done something embarrassing. Does your inner voice say “that was sure stupid”?
How about if you haven’t even done anything wrong or stupid at all, but your self-talk is just as critical?
This type of self-talk is known as destructive, it causes you to question yourself so constantly that you can soon become paralyzed with doubt and uncertainty and may even prevent you from taking a certain action.
Constructive self-talk, on the other hand, is positive such as “You are good at what you do” “I can do that with ease”.
It’s essential to create positive self-talk, which requires becoming more conscious of what you are thinking.
You will become what you think about most.
You’re success or failure in anything large or small, will depend on your programming – what you accept from others, and what you say when you talk to yourself.
NEVER underestimate the power of your own self-talk, if you are consistently reinforcing low opinions of yourself, you will come to believe them and act though they are true.
So how can you improve your self-talk?
Know your thoughts
Become aware of your thoughts
Your thoughts could be the very thing that’s preventing you from achieving your goals and having a better life.
The first step to change is becoming aware of what you’re actually thinking, whenever you in a negative mindset, check what you are saying to yourself and how it makes you feel.
2) Break the pattern
Whenever you catch yourself talking negative or beating yourself up about a mistake you made or something you couldn’t do stop and think did it really matter?
Think to yourself “If I want to do this I can learn!” if you’re really bothered about it you will.
3) Make it a habit
Any negative self-talk you have didn’t happen overnight. You would have repeated these negative thoughts on a consistent daily basis until you were at the point of accepting them as being true.
We need to hear a message multiple times before we accept them, for example, if you suffer from the confidence you can say to yourself, I am very confident.
4) Pep Talk Yourself
Stand in front of a mirror and do this at least once a day while you’re by yourself:
For example, I would say out loud to myself Zaf you can do this, there’s nothing stopping you from doing whatever you want.
Zaf you’re a big thinker so think big. Think big about everything. You got plenty of ability to do a first-class job, so do a first-class job.
So by using positive self-talk, you will begin to feel happier and more confident about yourself and this, in turn, will improve all areas of your life, but remember this is a constant process and will take time to form this habit.
Don’t get discouraged if at times you slip back, just remember to keep trying. And eventually, this will be so normal that you’ll find yourself doing this automatically.
Above just make it as enjoying as possible for yourself. Good Luck!
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